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Some Final Thoughts for Now…

Monday, May 3rd, 2010

Linda, Jessie, Jess, Kate, Stephanie, and I take the plunge in Portland, Maine

Linda, Jessie, Jess, Kate, Stephanie, and I take the plunge in Portland, Maine

Hello friends,

So, it is Over….

But not really.

I am in Portland, Maine and am about to hitchhike back towards Michigan.

I am told that I should feel a sense of accomplishment.  I don’t feel that.  I am told I have seen and done things that most will never see or do.  I know this, but it doesn’t change how I feel now.

Right now, I just feel mildly melancholy.

I also feel an irresistible urge to deactivate my facebook account, close my computer, and stow away my camera.

So I am going to.  It is a little early.  I said I would write everyday for a year and I am few weeks shy.

I just don’t have anything else to say.  And I trust myself that it is best for me and everyone, to just shut up for awhile.

On second thought, here are a few things I picked up over the past year:

*People are not all good.  We are both.  All of us.

*A lot of people are really scared.  Me too, sometimes.

*When you live your dreams, it is not perfect.  You still get sad, angry, etc.  You just feel more alive.  More tingly and smiley. You start to understand what all those mysterious artists were talking about in their quotes.

*There is no end.  No chair to sit in and rest and feel like you will never have troubles again.

*It all matters and it all doesn’t.

*You can’t have anything you have ever dreamed.  But you can have more than you think.

*If you aren’t living how you want, you can change.  And please do.  It is hard to be in your presence.  If you don’t know how, there are people that will help.  Just ask.

*If you are living how you want.  Thank you.  You nourish me.

*Other people can teach you much.  But you have to learn for yourself.

*It feels better to be loving than to feel anything else.  You can feel loving more and if you don’t know how, keep asking people.  You will eventually find someone that can teach you.

*Life is so funny!!! Even when it hurts… actually, more funny, when it hurts.  If you are avoiding the hurt, you are really missing out.  Seriously.

*I miss being challenged and people telling me the truth.

I am sure I could come up with more, but you will be fine without it.

No, I have one more thing to say.

I love you.

Till I have something else to say,

Benjamin

Ps.  If this was a buzzkill for you, here is short poem I read recently that made me smile;

“Your life is your life

don’t let it be clubbed into dank submission.

be on the watch.

there are ways out.

there is light somewhere.

it may not be much light but it

beats the darkness.

be on the watch.

the gods will offer you

chances.

know them, take them.

you can’t beat death but

you can beat death

in life,

sometimes.

and the more often you

learn to do it,

the more light there will

be.

your life is your life,

know it while you have

it.

you are marvelous

the gods wait to delight

in

you.

See the poster here.  It is a beaut.

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How to Become Indispensable.

Thursday, February 25th, 2010

 

Seth Godin.

Seth Godin. (I didn't take this)

“I don’t think we have any choice. I think we have an obligation to change the rules, to raise the bar, to play a different game, and to play it better than anyone has any right to believe is possible.” – Seth Godin

 This is one of my longest posts.  I usually don’t urge people to read my posts, however, I urge you to read this post.  I am concerned that not enough people are aware of the huge opportunity in front of us.   Seth Godin understands this.  I am trying my best to understand.  You can, too.  We can be Indispensable together.

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America’s Greatest Marketer.

I recently watched Seth Godin speak in Orange County. How to Become Indispensable.  This is the premise of his new book, Linchpin, and the point of his speech.  I am going to assume you don’t know this man, (if you do skip down the page to the 5 Ways to Be Indispensable) but he has been dubbed “America’s Greatest Marketer.”  He has one of the most popular blogs, has written over 10 books, is an entreprenuer, and regularly speaks to really, wealthy business executives about how to do better business. Seth is the father of viral marketing”  and if someone tells you to just be remarkable,” then you have just heard a Godin-ism. 

 

Rolling into the St. Regis Hotel with my backpack.

Rolling into the St. Regis Hotel with my backpack.

Are You a Genius?

Seth Godin starts out his speech asking the audience, “Are you a genius?”  People shift back and forth in their seats, nervously.  He wants us to think about this question and states he will coming back to it.  

Are you a genius?  Think about it.

We all sat in a large room at the St. Regis Hotel in Dana Point, California.  Dana Point is a well to-do city in Orange County and the St. Regis Hotel is a well-to-do hotel in Dana Point.  The carpeting is cushy and there are tall fountains shooting water outside.  I sit up front, next to my new friend Mark and his wife.  Mark is a staffing consultant.  He teaches business owners how to structure a business model that motivates their salesman to sell well.  I ditch my hiking pack in the corner of the room and nibble on some Astor chocolates.  A treat provided by the hotel, thanks to my 49$ for tonight’s speech.

Why am I paying 49$ to see Seth Godin speak, when I am living on peanut butter and jelly sandwiches?

You may be asking yourself the above question.  I sure was as my belly gurgled.   My thought as I clicked the BUY button on the Seth Godin ticket was to invest in wisdom.  The Chinese say,

 “A single conversation across the table with a wise person is worth a month’s study of books.”  

My stocks my fall, my house may get foreclosed, but I will have my wisdom.  

Lunch Lady and Flying Baseball Bat photographs.  

 Seth doesn’t pull punches and delivers an inspiring, informative, yet at times hilarious speech.  In between graphs and inspiring quotes, he has the largest collection of ‘lunch lady’ photographs and the largest collection of ‘baseball bats flying into a crowd’ photographs in the world. All of which is tailored to his message,

You are taught to be dispensable, but you can become Indispensable and change the world as you do.  

 

Seth Godin preparing to speak.

Seth Godin preparing to speak (he's the bald one).

School is a Scam.

“Keep Calm and Carry On.” -a British propaganda slogan, that was waiting to be released had the Nazi’s successfully invaded the UK in World War II

Our education system is a scam that was created to fill our society’s need for docile workers.  The Industrial Revolution produced a great need for a large number of people, to do really, really boring tasks over and over again.  To fill up our factories, people needed to be able to follow directions, memorize, and pass their ‘tests.’  Similarly, our education system, teaches our students to fit in and follow directions.  Creativity or independence are not what our system is designed for.  People, whom follow others cause much less problems than those whom think for themselves.  

The reason they want you to fit in is that once you do, then they can ignore you.”  

Financially this system worked well enough for most and it worked for a while.  The owner of the factory made lots of money.  Even the worker made enough to support a family.  More importantly, the worker had stability.  Ahhh…. stability.  However, stability is leaving quickly or is gone already.  Or maybe never was but an illusion we Americans had.  

You are Dispensable, Unless…

The rules have changed.  The old days are gone, where you can work for 30 years (hate it probably, but it’s work, it’s not supposed to be fun, right?), grab your retirement and live the good life.  But times are different.  Stability is out and change is in.  

Accept it.  

Accept it or give yourself an ulcer.  Accept Facebook and Twitter and iPhones. Accept our world as it is and the people in it is they are.  But, accept it and look at for your opportunity.  We have some very powerful tools at the fingertips of more people than ever before.  Tools that can spread ideas, cheaply and swiftly.  There is now more opportunity for you to become an ‘owner’ or a ‘creator’ that ever before.

“Turn your fear of the unknown into curiosity.”

 

After the speech, my new friend Rich poses for a photograph with me.

After the speech, my new friend Rich poses for a photograph with me.

5 ways to Be Indispensable.

Seth finishes his speech by giving seven ways you can become a necessary commodity to any business or to succeed at your own business.  I narrow it down to five by mixing and mashing them.  

How to Be Indispensable:

1.  Be A Geek: Have a very deep set of knowledge of one area that is so complex that people, like me can never figure it out.  Geeks know so much about a topic, they are needed.  Be aware of your topic though!  Don’t choose typewriters!

2.  Be A Leader:  Be an inspiration to the people around you.  Recruit a crew of people to follow you.  Stand up, when others sit down.  Face criticism, when others strive to be accepted by all.  People are scared to lead, to not fit in and risk failure.  Fail and fail mightily! Then, get back up, learn, and keep going.  People will follow. 

3. Be A Creator:  Come up with solutions that no one else would ever think of.   Go to places that others won’t go or can’t figure out how to go.  Look in different ways.  Sit on your head. 

4.  Be A Connector:  Help people form the relationships they want to build, but can’t quite make it happen.  Help businesses find customers that WANT their product.  Help people find services that make their lives more fulfilling.  

5.  Be A Whiz:  Be so talented, no one will ever be able to be better than you.  

“Go. Make Something Happen.”

*********Don’t Forget to Be An Artist.**********

You are one of the above or have the ability to become one of them. Or you may be a mix of a few of the above.  Take a minute and think about it.  What are you? I am a mixture of Leader, Creator, and Connector.  Hone these skills at your current place of employment or in your own business.  

BUT… the above skills are not enough.  You must be an Artist, too.  

Seth describes an artist as not necessarily a painter or a sculptor, but someone that puts their whole self into their work.  Someone whom is passionate about what they do, is happy doing it, and spreads this joy with others.  Anyone can be an artist from a CEO or a desk receptionist, from a taxi driver to a preacher.  The Starbuck’s employee in New York City, whom knows the name of every repeat customer is an Artist.  

An artist attempts to enjoy each day and spread that joy. Making loads of money is much less important when you live happily.  Life is the joy.

Let’s Create Our World (and be Indispensable).

Ben

“Being safe is risky.” – Seth Godin

Ps.  Are you a Genius? 

Nice! You didn’t forget.  I felt so good at ending it at the point about being an Artist, that I thought I would slip this in way at the bottom to reward those whom diligent folks, like you.

Seth asks again, “Are you a Genius?”  More looks and nervousness.  “Stand up if you are.”  I am impressed by the few men or women, whom are the first to stand.  I was scared.  But of course it ended with the room of people standing.  Seth finishes with a picture of Albert Einstein on the large screen.  This wrinkly, tousled haired man is definitely a genius.  ”Albert Einstein killed the word, genius, though.”  

We are all a genius at something.


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Do One Nice Thing.

Friday, November 13th, 2009

“When I do good, I feel good.  When I do bad, I feel bad.  That’s my religion.” – Abraham Lincoln

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Do One Nice Thing.

I saw this article in the Weekender paper, when I was visiting Scranton, PA.

Every Monday, Debbie Tenzer does One Nice Thing.  She started this awhile ago.  She kept on and others began as well.  It has caught on and in May she wrote a book about the project, Do One Nice Thing, and has a website that shares what she and others do to brighten the day of others.

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Create Our World.

Ben

“My country is the world, and my religion is to do good.” – Thomas Paine


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